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Fear of Pain — Is It Worse Than What You Fear?
I’ve been thinking a lot about pain — my pain, my client’s pain, my children’s pain and pain in general. We fear pain, avoid it with good reason— it hurts. We shelter our loved ones from it —...
Trauma Informed Therapy
Once upon a time, therapists told clients to go over all of the gory details of the horrific things they had been through because it would be therapeutic. They were wrong. Sometimes this can deepen...
Divorce is Trauma
In my practice, I often see people going through divorce or who have gone through divorce. I also work extensively with people struggling with trauma. Do these seem like two different things to you?...
Do You Want To Get Off The Whirly Ride? Do it — Slow Down, Stop the Noise.
Do you ever feel like you can’t keep up? Everything is moving forward, you have to forge ahead while keeping all the balls in the air, your day is scheduled with work and family and kids, you don’t...
The Secret Wounds of Infidelity— It’s Not Because You Weren’t Enough
If you’ve been betrayed in a relationship, there’s something you really need to hear and if you’re like most of the people who sit on my couch in my office, it might be hard to take in: Your...
You Lie to Yourself — The Truth About Impostor Syndrome
Do you ever have moments when you feel like a fraud and think you’ll be found out? You’re not really that good? Everyone will discover the truth and it will all come falling down? They think you...
The Dish Fairy Dynamic: Why Doing The Dishes May Save Your Marriage
Sometimes, I have days in my practice where there’s a theme that comes up over and over on my sofa in a single day. It doesn’t happen often that the same issues weave through like that but it...
Telling the Kids About Your Divorce — Five Things You Should Know and Why This Conversation Can Be A Gift
When it was time for me to tell my then-eight-year-old daughter that I was getting a divorce and her father would no longer be living with us, I was terrified. I read articles, I called therapists,...
Divorce: Moments That Make You Miss Your Ex– What They Mean and What They Don’t Mean
Have you ever had a rat problem? I don’t mean your ex — I mean a legit rat? There are few times when I have wished to have a husband since I have been divorced but last summer, I wished I had a...
Does It Feel Like Everything Is Coming Unglued?
When life gets hard, sometimes it gets really hard. If you’re going through a divorce, this is likely something you’ve learned the hard way. I certainly did. Around the same time my wasband moved...
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