Fear of Pain — Is It Worse Than What You Fear?

Fear of Pain — Is It Worse Than What You Fear?

I’ve been thinking a lot about pain — my pain, my client’s pain, my children’s pain and pain in general.  We fear pain, avoid it with good reason— it hurts.  We shelter our loved ones from it — sometimes stay in bad marriages to keep our children from feeling it.  We...
Trauma Informed Therapy

Trauma Informed Therapy

Once upon a time, therapists told clients to go over all of the gory details of the horrific things they had been through because it would be therapeutic. They were wrong. Sometimes this can deepen the neural pathways to the trauma and even re-traumatize. The moment I...
Divorce is Trauma

Divorce is Trauma

In my practice, I often see people going through divorce or who have gone through divorce. I also work extensively with people struggling with trauma. Do these seem like two different things to you? They are not. Guess what? Divorce is trauma. This is how the American...